Self-help psychologist: 4 effective self-help techniques

In our troubled world, maintaining a Buddhist calmness is not an easy task. Every fifth person suffers from depression, neurosis, sleep disorders and chronic fatigue.

Oh this crazy, crazy world

Stress follows us everywhere: even the most balanced person will lose his temper if you just let him watch a ten-minute news clip. What to say about our psychological state, when everything around us is demanding something from us, all the necessary things are lost or broken, at work and at home there are continuous problems? In some cases, you don’t even want to wake up in the morning.

It is known that stress is reflected even in appearance. That is, in addition to fatigue, unwillingness to work and lead an active lifestyle, we also have a chance to earn premature wrinkles and cellulite, rattling our nerves over trifles.

Who if not we?

After all, who knows us better than ourselves? Even the most outstanding specialist only helps a person to heal himself, and does not impose health on him from the outside.

In order not to go crazy and restore fragile mental health, psychologists recommend these four basic self-help techniques. Choose the one that suits you:

1. Self-observation

Ask yourself two important questions:

– What is happening to me now?

What would I like to do next?

It really helps. It has been proven that conscious anger quickly disappears, losing its destructive power.

A moment of joy, a moment of triumph will forever remain in our memory if we realize what exactly happens to us.

The famous mystic philosopher George Gurdjieff said that the average person “sleeps” most of his time. Whether we do all our business automatically, get distracted by music and TV shows, immerse ourselves in memories or dream about the future, the result is the same: we are not in the current moment and miss many wonderful moments of our lives.

2. Keeping a diary

– Write down any strong experience – both positive and negative – in your personal diary, which will serve only for these purposes.

-Reread it regularly. You can catch the same patterns of behavior that you unconsciously follow and which lead to problems over and over again.

You should write a diary only for yourself, because it will not have any therapeutic effect, being written in the style of “I-knew-someone-would-read”.

A personal diary makes it possible to evaluate your thoughts, actions and deeds from the outside, soberly, when emotions have already subsided. It is also a documentary evidence that you have an amazingly rich life.

3. Writing an autobiography

– Write your story. Remember all the important moments of your life and compose an exciting romance with yourself in the lead role. Be sure to include the date of writing.

You can write your autobiography as many times as you like. Each time the events of your life will appear before you from a new angle, so always date the notes – it will be interesting for you to note how at different times you treated certain milestones of your path.

The main result that writing an autobiography will give is understanding and reassessment of one’s past. Each of us has our own traumas that do not allow us to live in peace. A biopic dedicated to herself will help you come to terms with the ghosts of the past and start living without dragging a heavy burden of memories.

4. Relaxation

“Make sure no one bothers you.” Get into a comfortable lying or sitting position. Close eyes. Take a slow deep breath in and out.

– Count from ten to one. Then slowly inhale and exhale again.

– Feel how all the tension leaves the body along with the breath.

– Pay attention to your whole body. Slowly go over your arms, legs, chest, stomach to feel how they fill with pleasant heaviness and warmth with each inhalation and exhalation.

– Spend as much time in this state as you need to rest.

Everything that is in our mind is reflected in our body. The body and soul are parts of a single system called “man”, and there is a two-way relationship between them. By relaxing the body, we calm our thoughts and release the energy that was previously spent by the body to maintain muscle and emotional tension.

Regularly relaxing, after a few sessions you will feel that you have more energy. Worry is a very energy intensive process. As soon as you learn to relax your body, many bodily clamps and foci of tension will go away, and, consequently, the thoughts that disturb you will also go away.