Don’t worry if you don’t like someone. We are all different. And this reaction reminds us that no one is perfect. Including ourselves.
1. Accept the fact that you can’t get along with everyone.
This is fine. Some people like you, and some people can’t stand you. This does not mean that there is something wrong with you or with others. We all just have our own preferences.
The decisive role is played by the difference in characters. An extrovert will find an introvert boring, and a convinced realist may find the fine mood of an optimist inadequate.
We tend to invest in what we love. Suppose you are annoyed by one of your acquaintances or colleagues. Of course, you will not seek to meet him and keep in touch. But sometimes this approach can turn into open hostility.
2. Try to understand the interlocutor
Maybe your mother-in-law does not consider you frivolous, as you always thought. And the colleague is not really trying to set you up. Take a closer look, and perhaps you will understand the motives of their actions or even extract some useful advice.
Don’t get angry if there really is a good reason for criticism against you. You will only make yourself look bad. Just take my word for it and take the critical remark into service.
3. Keep your emotions under control
It is up to you how you react to any given situation. She can drive you crazy if you let it. Don’t waste your strength.
Don’t give in if someone hurts you or tries to piss you off. Sometimes “smile and wave” – this is the best method.
It is very important to initially treat everyone you meet with respect. This does not mean that you should always follow the lead and agree with everyone.
You have to be polite towards other people. Thus, you will remain in your opinion, keep calm and the advantage will be on your side.
4. Don’t take everything to heart
Very often we simply misunderstand the person. Perhaps he simply did not quite accurately express his thought, or his day did not work out in the morning. You should not take it out on someone, because he can break out on you in return. This will only exacerbate the situation. Be above this, concentrate on the matter, not paying attention to the inadequate reaction of the interlocutor.
If you feel tired and low energy, take a break, take a walk. Set boundaries for your personal space where no one can disturb you.
5. Speak calmly
How we communicate is often more important than what we say. If the situation has heated up, then it’s time to talk about it. However, the dialogue should not be aggressive. It is better to use sentences that begin with the words “I”, “me”, “me”, for example: “It annoys me when you do this. Could you act differently?” Most likely, the interlocutor will listen to you and also express his opinion.
Sometimes it pays to call on a third party for help. Another person can objectively assess the situation. Maybe after the dialogue you will not become friends with the one with whom the conflict has matured, but at least you will be able to communicate normally.
Working alongside people with whom you find it difficult to get along is a rewarding experience that will show you how you can deal with problems.
Not everything deserves your time and attention. You must decide whether you really want to keep in touch with this or that person, or whether it is better to concentrate, for example, on work.
Weigh the situation. Will it get worse over time? Sooner or later the problem will have to be solved. If the conflict is ripe simply by coincidence, then you will quickly be able to deal with it.
7. Don’t get defensive
If you feel constant dissatisfaction with you from someone else, if someone focuses only on your shortcomings, you should not rush at this person with your fists. This is not a way out. Such behavior will only irritate him. Instead, it is better to ask directly what exactly does not suit him. Gossip or harassment can be a sign that they want to manipulate you or even demonstrate their power.
If a person wants you to treat him with respect, he should treat you the same way.
There is one psychological trick: speak quickly when expressing your disagreement with someone. So the interlocutor will have less time to answer. Slow down if you feel that he is ready to agree with you.
8. Remember that you are the creator of your own happiness.
Of course, it is difficult to soberly assess the situation if someone is getting on your nerves a lot. However, never let others drag you down.
If someone’s words really hurt you to the core, sort yourself out. Maybe you are not confident in yourself or are you worried about some work moments? If so, focus on solving the problems that are important to you.
Don’t compare yourself to others, we are all different.
Remind yourself often of your accomplishments and don’t let anyone ruin your mood over a little thing!