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1. Breakfast in bed

What does it look like

White sheets, the room is flooded with sunlight. A guy or girl with a perfect hairstyle and smooth skin opens his eyes. And then a loved one enters the room with a special table-tray filled with all sorts of goodies. They eat, laugh and chat. And then probably sex.

How really

It is very difficult to guess exactly when a person will wake up. Therefore, you will either have to serve cold food and coffee, or wake him up. And to deprive your beloved of a legitimate sleep on the weekend is not very humane.

In addition, many people wake up with bladder urges, and also want to wash and brush their teeth as quickly as possible in order to feel fresh. Someone eats breakfast only after the obligatory shower. Instead, they push him to the bed with a tray table and wait for gratitude. And that’s not to mention the crumbs in bed and the risk of spilling boiling water on yourself.

Of course, there are certainly people who will be happy to have breakfast in bed. But it is better to find out in advance so that the romantic gesture does not turn into torture.

2. The offer is an absolute surprise (especially in public)

What does it look like

A beautiful location, a lot of people around – the closest or, conversely, strangers. The guy takes out a box with a ring and falls on his knee, perhaps having arranged a flash mob or other spectacular performance before that. The girl cries, covers her mouth with her hand, and then says “Yes!”.

How really

Don’t misunderstand: showy romantic gestures are cool and usually appeal to those who tend to be a bit showy (which isn’t a bad thing, by the way). If a girl has social networks where she posts all the important moments of her life, she will most likely be pleased with a beautiful and unexpected proposal.

But at the same time, it’s good if she is aware that things can take such a turn, and the couple has already discussed their plans for a future life. Otherwise, it’s embarrassing, because it’s hard to say “no” to a great offer. Around all these people, whose presence crushes. Some of them will certainly consider the girl a bad person, because the guy is so confused for her sake. Although even the “most important question” asked in a romantic setting does not nullify the difficulties in relationships and does not force you to reconsider your attitude towards them.

That is why the proposal is also a bad surprise if the couple is in a quarrel, recently broke up. A wedding is not a plantain that is applied to a wound. First you need to cure everything, and then move on.

3. Dangerous rough sex

What does it look like

The couple is captured by passion, and they indulge in it, despite the circumstances. And get only orgasms from it.

How really

Still, safety should not be neglected. If you roll on the floor surrounded by candles, you can set yourself and the apartment on fire. Acrobatic stunts in a slippery bath are fraught with dislocations and sprains. If there is a full mug of drink and a laptop with unsaved work on the table, it is hardly worth using it as a springboard for comfort: there are several vulnerabilities at once.

Do not neglect safety, because the consequences can be extremely unpleasant. The consolation “but there will be something to remember” is dubious, because good sex is not remembered by the catastrophe that interrupted it.

4. Fights over the object of adoration

What does it look like

Two guys (or two girls) are in love with the same person. At one beautiful moment, they clash in a fight for the right to be with the same or the same.

How really

Man is not a weak-willed trophy to be won in battle. He chooses who to be with. Although a fight can help with this and show that it is better to stay away from both of these people.

5. Inappropriate and untimely declaration of love

What does it look like

One of the most common movie clichés: two are standing at the altar, a third bursts into the room and says that he cannot allow this wedding. He loves the bride/groom and cannot live without him. And the object of adoration at the same moment leaves his chosen one and rushes into the sunset with this eloquent guest.

Untimely recognition may be less spectacular. For example, it is addressed to a married person who is unaware of this one-sided love. But always the object of adoration must understand that in fact he loved only the one who confesses and does not see life without him.

How really

In this scheme, there are questions for everyone. Let’s start with the person who is already in a relationship. Of course, it happens that people deceive themselves about their feelings, and then suddenly see the light. But this is actually not the norm, but a reason to go to a psychologist in order to improve relations, first of all, with yourself. And basically, after such inappropriate confessions, no one runs anywhere, but shrugs and gets upset because of a spoiled holiday, if we are talking about a wedding.

As for those who like to talk about their love at the wrong time, they should have thought so before. In the situations described in the examples, this is simply an attempt to shift the problem from a sick head to a healthy one.

6. Manipulation of friendship

What does it look like

The man is in love, but unrequited. However, he does not give up and offers to be friends. Then he tries to always be there, helps, becomes indispensable. And once the object of adoration begins to see clearly.

How really

Not all people fall in love at first sight. Someone needs time to understand how he feels for a person. Of course, if he shows himself from the best side, he has more chances.

But there is no contract that passes off a relationship as good behavior. And friendship also involves spending time together and helping each other. So the object of adoration may well be friends for a long time, but never fall in love.

7. Heroic gestures to earn love

What does it look like

Stop the plane, bring something across half the country, without which the object of adoration will fail, climb Everest and dedicate it to another person – if you do something incredible, then you will definitely be loved.

How really

Love cannot be earned. After a heroic deed, a person may fall in love, or may not. There is no system here. And it doesn’t have much to do with grand gestures. Because this is a one-time event, and relationships are every day.