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Mutual respect is a key element of a healthy relationship. His absence threatens the very existence of the couple. Some manifestations of disrespect, such as lying or cheating, are known and understood by everyone. However, there are other signs that are quite easy to miss.
Relationship coach Shula Melamed notes that disrespect can occur when one partner does not consider the other worthy of the same degree of care that he wants for himself. Psychotherapist Christiana Avosan adds that such an atmosphere, especially if it lasts a long time and a loved one never apologizes, is a bad sign. One day, one of the partners will begin to doubt that they love him, and this is not the most pleasant feeling, especially when it comes to a romantic relationship.
To protect yourself from such a sad outcome, you need to know and notice signs of disrespect in time. Experts recommend paying attention to the following features of behavior.
1. Partner avoids serious conversations
According to psychotherapist Darcy Sterling, when a loved one is unable to speak frankly about important topics, such as a future together, this may indicate that he is not interested in you or your point of view.
However, if the partner promises that you will talk later, and keeps the promise, everything is in order. This is how he shows that your needs matter to him, even if the conversation had to be rescheduled.
2. Partner talks about sensitive topics at the wrong time.
This behavior may mean that he does not treat your needs as carefully as he does his own. For example, a partner starts an important conversation, although he sees that you are under stress, or he perfectly understands that you are going through a difficult period now. With a respectful attitude, he would definitely specify when it would be comfortable for you to discuss an important topic.
3. Partner does not give you personal space
Imagine that you are having a heated argument with a loved one. At some point, you tell him that you want to continue the discussion later, get up and leave. But the partner follows you everywhere and insists on ending the conversation here and now. This behavior is a clear sign that the person has no respect for your boundaries at all.
4. Partner speaks in an unacceptable tone
“It’s not about what you say, but how you say”. This phrase is largely true, because the tone of our speech expresses our true feelings much better than words.
Experts give two examples of unacceptable tone in a relationship. The first is condescending, for example: “I’m sorry that this offended you.” In this case, the partner is trying to shift the responsibility for the negative feelings provoked by him onto you. The second is sarcastic, when they say something like “Oh no, I’m the worst person on earth” and roll their eyes. Thus, the partner again relieves himself of responsibility.
5. The partner does not support your interests
“If you have repeatedly asked a loved one to take part in something very important to you, but he never met you halfway, this is a sign of disrespect,” says relationship coach Shula Melamed.
For example, you have an important event at work and you need support, but a loved one refuses to go with you, although there are no objective reasons for this. In such a situation, you should be wary, because it turns out that the partner ignores your needs for the sake of his desires.
6. Partner reveals your secrets
To be honest, it is quite difficult to correctly dose information, especially when it concerns several people at once. After all, we all need to talk sometimes. Another thing is if you clearly asked your partner not to tell anyone certain things. When a loved one ignores such a request, it means that he does not care about your feelings. And such behavior is a sure sign of disrespect.
7. The partner protects only his own interests
If a loved one gets annoyed every time you can’t do what they want, your relationship is at risk. This reaction can also mean that the partner considers their time to be much more valuable than yours. Most likely because it does not take into account other aspects of your life – family, work responsibilities or personal time.