1. It’s all your fault!

A flood of accusations will not benefit you or your partner. Even if the loved one is really to blame for the current situation. Be smart and don’t add fuel to the fire. It is better later, when the passions subside, to talk calmly and find out who is to blame and what to do.

2. But he (s) always did (s) this for me

Never, remember, never mention an ex in a conversation. Not good, not evil, not at all.

A partner may have a reasonable question: has that relationship ended if you continue to constantly remember it? Endless comparisons with someone “ideal” (actually not) will drive a loved one into complexes and neuroses. And this is what you call love?

If you still want to change your partner’s behavior, try more civilized methods, such as heart-to-heart talks or gentle persuasion.

3. I have never heard more stupidity in my life (s)

If you entered into a relationship consciously, then you probably imagine the intellectual level of a partner. Therefore, you should not speak contemptuously or mockingly about his ridiculous – only in your opinion – ideas and thoughts. This will only lead to the fact that the loved one closes, withdraws into himself and completely stops sharing anything with you.

You can tactfully and delicately point out to your partner the illogical thought, and in response to a joke that you heard back in elementary school, just smile. In the end, the person did his best to please you.

4. You can’t do anything right

Such things should never be said out loud. And try not to think that about yourself. Give thanks for trying, praise for the effort. And if something didn’t work out, it doesn’t matter, together you will find a way out of the situation and a solution to the problem.

What do you value more: peace in the family or a perfectly screwed shelf in the kitchen?

And if you knew in advance that the partner would not cope with the case, why did you entrust him? Failure is humiliating for both of you.

5. And I said (s)

This is generally beyond good and evil.

Do not turn into an evil monster and forget about the existence of this phrase forever. Is it so important for you to show your case and be the one who has the last word? It won’t do you any good, trust me.

It is human nature to make mistakes, and only those who do nothing do not make mistakes.

Let your partner make mistakes and learn from them the right lessons. Your task is to support and love, not to denounce and triumph. Smile and tell your loved one that next time he will definitely succeed.

6. If you loved me (s), you would never …

Giving ultimatums and conditions is humiliating and dishonest. Do not manipulate your loved one and do not put him before a choice: you or something else. Constant pressure on the partner will lead to an explosion. The man will buck and send you to hell.

Try to find compromises and take into account the desires and needs of the second half. Do you like it when people respect your needs?

7. Don’t wear it

Coming to terms with someone else’s wardrobe can be difficult.

However, you will have to do it or find ways of soft influence in the name of maintaining the relationship. For example, a husband’s worn T-shirt may suddenly disappear from the closet, and a stylish new thing will take its place. It’s even easier with women: it’s enough to go shopping with your beloved and give the go-ahead (and money) to buy only what you like.

In any case, always explain your position and strive for a compromise. Don’t like too short skirts? Let the wife wear them at home or on any one day of the week.

8. And my mother did it differently

This is an option for men. Do not try to blurt out this, especially if the beloved is not in the best mood. Otherwise, you risk hearing advice to pack your things and immediately go to live with your mother. This is a dead end relationship.

A wife or girlfriend will never be like your mother.

There is simply no need for this. It’s better to gently teach your wife “mother’s” recipes or show how you are used to ironing shirts. That is, the way their mother once stroked them.

9. In bed, you are a complete zero.

If yesterday’s passionate lover has run out of steam, do not rush to throw angry accusations in your face and demand African passion here and now. Situations are different, and a person could be exhausted at work. It’s good to take a critical look at yourself. Perhaps you should tone up your figure, get rid of your beer belly, or buy sexy underwear.

If you initially knew about the low sexual temperament of the second half, do not say that you entered into a relationship with hope and thoughts “appetite comes with eating.” You can try – delicately and unobtrusively – to stir up your loved one and show him new facets of sex. But to force, coerce and insult is the way to break.

10. There are only losers in your family

Family is sacred. Even if the partner does not get tired of pouring mud on relatives, you are strictly forbidden to do this. You have become part of a family with a difficult relationship, so it is much wiser and safer to just stay neutral. And in no case do not let yourself be drawn into undercover games. For you, they will come out sideways, because relatives will support each other in any case. Nothing makes former enemies unite like a new common enemy.

What phrases irritate you? Share in the comments.