1. It seems like you’ve known each other for ages.
You recently met, but it seems as if you know each other almost from birth. Some details of your lives are so similar that it looks like you grew up together. Views on important things are the same. And it gives a feeling of comfort and closeness.
2. You understand each other
Most often, without clarifying questions, you understand what the person wants to say. In most romantic or friendly relationships, the system of gestures and signs develops over the years, this is facilitated by close communication. But some come into our lives already prepared and correctly interpret what we want to convey. And it makes everything very easy, because you don’t have to waste time explaining.
However, one should not expect telepathy sessions from anyone.
If you need something, say so. So much better than waiting for accomplishments from a person, and then being offended that he did not understand you.
3. Differences do not quarrel, but develop
Even twins, despite their outward resemblance, are very different in character. What to expect from strangers, in fact, people. Naturally, you have polar opposite qualities. But it goes without saying that you are not using them as a reason for a quarrel. Differences in character and behavior allow you to learn from each other, making each of you better.
4. You empathize
“Together in sorrow and in joy” are not empty words, this formula works both in love and in friendship. An empathic person can understand how a friend who is in trouble feels. And the pain of a truly loved one is experienced as one’s own.
5. Joy brings you closer
If everything is clear with grief, then with joy the situation is usually not so clear. Empathizing with someone is easy enough, but sharing moments of happiness is already more difficult. If you are sincerely capable of this and do not envy, do not turn each other’s achievements into an element of competition, do not devalue other people’s successes, and this is mutual, then such relationships are worth a lot.
6. You can be yourself
Usually, when meeting a person, he wants to seem better than he really is. We reserve our oddities and eccentricities for those with whom we become closer. Although in this case, it happens, we do not open up to the end.
This is a security issue: showing yourself from an unusual side, a person may face ridicule, reproaches or insults, which is very unpleasant. With soul mates, we feel so relaxed that we are not afraid to be ourselves.
7. You easily put up with each other’s shortcomings.
Relationships can be approached in different ways. It is more common to evaluate them from the standpoint of how much people invest in them, what they do, how ready they are to change.
But you can also approach it from the other side: among your loved ones there are always people who enrage less than others. You easily get along in the same territory, your habits do not contradict each other, and the thought that you would be better off alone hardly flicker. Don’t underestimate these people.
8. You are together because you want to be.
The main thing that binds you is the desire to be near, and not external circumstances. If you subtract a joint mortgage, a common business, or some other obligation from the equation, you will still communicate, and no better or worse than now.
9. Your fights are not the end of the world.
You, like everyone else, argue and quarrel, but at the same time you quickly put up. First, you value each other enough to keep contradictions from destroying the relationship. Secondly, you recognize each other’s right to different opinions. Thirdly, even in the heat of a quarrel, you hold back from hitting your most sensitive pain points.
Thanks to this, the showdown does not end with cracks in them, you just step over the conflict and move on.
10. You just know it’s him/her
Sounds subjective, but does the concept of “soul mate” itself have anything to do with facts and logic? If you look at someone and see in him a reliable companion, without whom you would not be who you are, no other evidence is needed.
Is there a person in your life whom you are ready to call a kindred spirit?