In our age of emancipation and feminism, women are active and proactive everywhere – in education, work, travel, life, hobbies. I immediately recall the phrase from the film “a Komsomol member, an athlete, an activist” or the eternal Nekrasov “stop a galloping horse, enter a burning hut.” But is it necessary to enter these huts, is it worth being persistent and active in a relationship?

Women's initiative or is it worth being persistent?Women's initiative or is it worth being persistent?

Pet dog or carnivore?

A man is a hunter and conqueror by nature, direct female intervention, as it were, “castrates” this natural instinct of his

In my personal experience and based on conversations with men I know, it is inappropriate to take the initiative when meeting a man or persevere to get close to him. You can show in various female ways that you are not against dating or rapprochement – shoot your eyes, smile, casually touch, but you can’t take the first step and speak directly about your intentions. A man is a hunter and conqueror by nature, a direct female intervention, as it were, “castrates” this natural instinct of his, and as a result, even if you get a male object for some permanent or temporary use, it will be more like a lap dog than a predatory one. the beast that sits in every man, regardless of physique.

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Why does the man not take the initiative?

In fact, the answer is simple – if a man does nothing, then he is not interested in you.

On various psychological forums, I meet with questions that can be reduced to one topic – “why doesn’t he call?” or “why isn’t he doing anything?”. Why doesn’t the man with whom we seem to have had a pleasant chat and even exchanged contacts continue to communicate, why doesn’t the man with whom we communicate well and spend time call to bed, or why does the man with whom we slept disappear from the horizon? Women like to fantasize and explain male behavior like this: “he must be timid”, “maybe he lost my phone”, “probably I myself need to call and invite him.” They also ask for the help of a psychologist “help me figure out what to do?”.

Why a man does not take the initiativeWhy a man does not take the initiative

In fact, the answer is simple – if a man does nothing, then he is not interested in you. Even the most timid men take timid steps towards. The key word here is “do”. Only dead men and those who are not interested in you do nothing. How often do you lose your phones, end up in a hospital, end up on a desert island? So why do you think that men live any other life? Unless, when meeting with you, he immediately says “My name is Bond, James Bond”, then you have in front of you the most ordinary man who is able to do everything himself, if only he wants to.

Men may feel timid in front of status or very beautiful women and, indeed, be more careful or reserved with them. But even in this case, for rapprochement, they are not waiting for an initiative from such a woman, but only a hint that she does not mind accepting his courtship.

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In order for a man to really become different, a woman must first accept her responsibility for the “castration” and herself move from the role of mother to the role of wife

If we are talking about already established relationships, then I would not call any “let’s” or “want” in them an initiative. Rather, in a couple, each can state their desires and discuss together whether they are feasible or not. But, also in existing couples, one can often observe women who are tireless in their initiative to remake a man. I have not met any successful in this, but tireless ones – yes. For some reason, it seems to women that without their instructions or instructions “come on, do this”, “you need to go there”, “you must be like this”, a man will lose his course of movement. Of course, there are a number of men who silently and happily follow the course indicated by the woman. In society, such men are contemptuously called “henpecked”, from a psychological point of view, the roles in this pair look like “Mother-Son”, and not like “Adult-Adult”.

A beautiful coupleA beautiful couple

They can function quite successfully only if both partners are satisfied with their roles. In practice, a woman often begins to be burdened by the role of a mother, especially if she has her own child and then a man instead of a course hears claims “why are you like this, let’s become different”. In order for a man to really become different, a woman must first accept her responsibility for the “castration” and herself move from the role of mother to the role of wife.

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Leave space for men to maneuver and space for exploits

The only place or area in which men are happy with women’s initiative is sex. Again, it all depends on the individual man. If you see that your man faints from the word “sex”, and is engaged in it in darkness and silence, then of course, initiating some experiments, such as turning on a night light, for example, is fraught with the loss of a man in the literal sense. If he faints from the word, then from the light, like Count Dracula, he will die altogether. But is it necessary to regret such a loss? All other normal and healthy men will only be happy if the woman herself says “I want you” or does something like Kim Basinger’s famous dance in the famous movie.

In general, dear women, be active and enterprising everywhere, but leave space for men to maneuver and a place for exploits. Then they will definitely do it.

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