Do you remember the plumber Gosha from the famous movie ” Doesn’t Believe in Tears”? With his statement that a wife should not earn more than her husband. Much has changed since his time – emancipation, feminism, gender equality. But what do men really think about your success? Scientists from the United States came to disappointing conclusions.
Subconsciously, a man feels worse if his other half is a successful woman. This was found out by scientists from Florida State University, Tallahassee, USA.
The study on gender differences and the impact of partner success and failure involved 896 people of both sexes, with an average age of 30 years.
During testing, the researchers found out how negative and positive information about the work of one partner affects the self-esteem of the other. As a result, it turned out that the success of a woman lowers a man’s self-esteem, even if he does not admit it.
But the successes and failures of a man do not affect the self-esteem of a partner, contrary to expectations.
The authors of the study explain this by the fact that men tend to subconsciously compare themselves with close people, which affects their self-image. In this case, gender stereotypes also play a role. “You are the breadwinner”, “you must be the first and the best” – laying such attitudes in the head of their boys from childhood, mothers often force them to wrinkle their faces painfully from any blow to the ego all their lives.
Competitiveness is one of the main driving mechanisms of development in the male psyche, scientists say. From the point of view of evolutionary processes, this is useful and correct, because the strongest will survive and give offspring.
But if you are going to raise your son not in the African savannah, but in modern society, think about it: perhaps your attitudes are already negatively affecting the formation of his personality?