To raise self-esteem, it is not enough to rebuild psychologically, you need to change your physiology. This is no easy task. However, if you wish, you can always find a compromise with your own complexing organism.
Psychologists believe that the root of the problem is often hidden not in the emotional sphere, but much deeper: in the individual characteristics of the nervous system and metabolism, malfunctions in the functioning of internal organs, or even in genes.
After all, they program not only how we feel and look, but also how we perceive ourselves. Luckily, any program – even hereditary – can be partially rewritten.
Everyone, of course, knows what a constitution is. The basic law, the country lives by it. The billions of cells that make up our body do the same: they exist according to a single internal constitution, written in the genes. You probably noticed that children often inherit from their parents not only external features, such as thinness or a special splendor of hair, but also the specifics of behavior, perception of the world and themselves. How much is inherent in this from birth, and how much is brought in by upbringing, not a single psychologist can say. But that heredity has an effect, none of the scientists doubts.
Type of constitution
Doctors have been trying for thousands of years to connect the characteristic features of the structure of the human body with its psychological portrait and self-esteem.
Even Hippocrates divided all people into two constitutional types. The first he called strong. It includes people who are resistant to adverse factors, do not lose faith in themselves under any circumstances.
What is interesting: Hippocrates attributed people with naturally slender figures to the strong type, and those who easily gain weight and hardly get rid of extra pounds to the weak type.
It turns out that full young ladies with low self-esteem perceive themselves negatively not because their figures are far from ideal. The psychophysiological constitution of fat women is such that, even after losing weight, they do not treat themselves better. Weight goes down, but self-esteem does not grow: that’s the paradox.
Reasons for low self-esteem
True, the classification of Hippocrates does not quite fit full ladies with a strong, strong-willed character and a desire to dominate, who are not at all embarrassed by their size. You can’t attribute them to the weak type, but they also have problems with self-esteem. Such women lack recognition, so they strive to fill the space with themselves not only in a psychological sense, but also purely physically.
Physiological data symbolically reflects authority, therefore, having achieved success, we are proud to declare that we have increased our weight in society.
And if those around us do not value us, and we ourselves do not value ourselves, then the body, controlled by our most secret unconscious impulses, begins to do it for us and lift weight – if not social, then at least physical.
It’s worth considering: if the body is able to rebuild its physiology, expanding in breadth only to help raise self-esteem, then the opposite is also true – by improving your attitude towards yourself, you can easily become slimmer.
If weight stays the same despite diets and all efforts, it may never have been a major problem. Most likely, others, deep ones, were hiding behind extra pounds. A psychotherapist will help to part with them. It’s amazing how easily the surplus leaves the waist, it’s worth learning to appreciate and love yourself more.
Author: Everything will be good