1. Being late

Traffic jams, a sudden breakdown of public transport, a key stuck in the keyhole – it happens that the whole world is literally against you coming to a meeting on time. Nobody is immune from being late. But this is not a mistake that the expectant can easily forgive.

A delay of a few minutes means nothing. It is easy to take this time and not notice the absence of the interlocutor. But imagine: the Instagram feed* is scrolled through, and the messages are viewed. A person with a high degree of probability will think that the one he is waiting for simply did not try to come on time. By the way, quite often this turns out to be true, because many “force majeure” in fact are not.

So it is better to pay more attention to punctuality, especially in the first meetings. Otherwise, you will initially get a not very loyal interlocutor.

2. Sloppiness

No one has to look conventionally beautiful in order to please someone. What’s more, it’s impossible to please everyone. But there is a difference between freedom of expression and slovenliness. And also between untidiness and an accidental oversight.

Let’s say a fresh ice cream stain can accidentally appear on anyone’s clothes. But if it is easy to determine what a person has eaten over the past week by the marks on a T-shirt, then questions will arise for him.

3. Problems with speech

Writing and speaking correctly is one of the basic skills for those who want to make a good impression. However, this skill is often underestimated: “What difference does it make that I say “military”, I’m not a humanitarian.”

Of course, not every error in speech should be ashamed. Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. Literacy is an area in which people improve endlessly. Therefore, this opportunity should not be neglected. The more correct your speech is, the easier it will be to make a good impression.

4. Rudeness

Usually the person is kind, polite and caring to the one he is trying to charm. Because of this, the dismissive attitude towards people around can look even more contrasting. Often this is manifested in communication with service personnel. The familiar “Hey, you!” addressed to the waiter can nullify all previous efforts.

5. Inappropriate jokes

For a joke to be good, it must be both funny and relevant. And for this it is important to understand the context correctly.

Suppose several people in a company belong to a discriminated group. And friends often make tough jokes using stupid stereotypes. The humor works and does not offend, because all participants understand: they make fun of clichés and do not mean what they say.

But the same sharpness in a random company will most likely look disgusting.

6. Show off

Self-presentation skills are useful. Especially if you need to impress in a job interview or date. But it’s one thing to show off one’s virtues, it’s another thing to show off deliberately.

Unfortunately, there is no universal border here, much depends on the perception of the interlocutor. Let’s say you say, “I work for Gazprom. And it will just be a fact. And the interlocutor will think: “Does he want to show off his salary? Exactly! He’s trying to humiliate me!”

But you should at least avoid showing all the best at once, it will already be a lot.

7. Addiction to gadgets

In ancient times, there was a popular joke that if a person takes one earpiece out of his ear when meeting, this is respect. And if two, then already love. These days, wireless headphones often stay in your ears almost all the time. People put their phones on the table and check every minute for new notifications.

Few people like it when he is assigned a secondary role. Especially if you have to give in to likes on Instagram*. But most of us don’t get anything that needs to be dealt with urgently.

So it’s better to put the devices aside and immerse yourself in communication entirely.

8. Invasion of personal space

It is different for people. Some easily move on to physical contact, such as pats on each other’s shoulders or hugs. Someone will be categorically uncomfortable if they are approached closer than 80 centimeters. Over time, people are often ready to let themselves in. But at first it is better to keep a distance: politeness does not hurt.

9. Curiosity bordering on faux pas

In the process of communication, people get to know each other better. Therefore, they ask each other questions, tell about themselves. But there is information that is trusted only to very close people, or even to no one at all.

For example, you should definitely not ask questions about health. A person will be forced to answer or look for how to get out of the situation. Both are awkward. As, however, and listen to other people’s revelations on dubious topics.