When starting a new relationship, many women make the same mistake: turn a blind eye to the strongest disagreements, differences in lifestyle and shortcomings in the behavior of a partner. Everyone wants to believe that a loved one will change for her alone. In reality, everything turns out to be a little different. If you don’t want to be disappointed and waste time, pay attention to the signs that will help you understand at the early stages of a relationship that this man is not right for you.
Sometimes a woman’s hope for a brighter future comes to the point of absurdity. A man drinks and walks until the morning, ignores calls, does not work and is not eager to look for a source of income, is jealous … You can convince yourself for a long time that these are temporary difficulties. Or you can go in search of happiness with someone else.
Sign #1. different values
Your outlook on life must match. For example, if the most important thing for you is family and motherhood, and a man is not a fan of marriage and considers marriage an outdated social atavism, it is unlikely that your future together will be cloudless. Or he may consider himself too young for married life, so he hangs out all night in clubs and bars. Think about it, how long will you have to wait until responsibility wakes up in him?
Another example is a man obsessed with his career. He is ready to sleep in the office even on holidays. Such dedication commands respect, but then do not be surprised that you will have to celebrate all family celebrations alone. Yes, people who love each other can overcome any difficulties. But sometimes it ends with the fact that after several years of living together, a woman realizes: next to her is an absolutely stranger to her. With their hobbies, values, desires and goals.
While you are just starting to get to know each other, try to find out how a man relates to family, loved ones, work, money. It is also useful to ask about his hobbies, hobbies and circle of friends. If your views on most of these things are diametrically opposed, building a happy marriage will be problematic.
Sign number 2. He doesn’t care about you
Modern strong and independent women are accustomed to courageously endure any difficulties. But still, in a relationship, you should be the weaker sex. If you have a headache, and it’s hard for a man to tear himself away from a video game to fetch a glass of water and a pill, this is a wake-up call. Taking care of his beloved is his duty. You should not close your eyes to the fact that you work from morning to evening, and he wakes up for dinner and is idle all day. There are many examples, but the fact remains: the representative of the stronger sex should try to provide his lady with a comfortable life. Of course, no one says that a man is obliged to become your slave. Strong relationships are built on mutual support.
Sign #3. He is cheating on you
A man who is promiscuous in sexual contacts is unlikely to ever become a good father and head of the family. It will always be a sham. Today he hugs you and says that you are the love of his life, and tomorrow another will say these words. Even if you catch such a womanizer red-handed, he will swear that this is the last time, and then … Several months will pass, and the situation will repeat itself. The sooner you break off relations with such a person, the better.
Sign #4 He has already asked you to break up
Or hinted that you are too different, and he doubts that something will work out. If a man made attempts to end your relationship, but you convinced him not to, be careful. In his head, he has already built a picture of life without you. Can you trust such a person? Are you afraid to become a mother if you know that your partner is not sure of your compatibility? The appearance of children will keep him a little longer next to you, but he will never become a person whom you can rely on in difficult times. Time after time you will have to impose and persuade him to continue living together.
If a man treats your child from a previous relationship badly, disrespectfully, or in every possible way shows that this gives him inconvenience, run! The future husband should not be afraid of children. If he really loves you, then he must love everything that is connected with you, including children. Do not settle for a relationship in which your child will be deprived of something. The kid should not only see happy parents in front of him, but also receive their love and care in abundance.
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