goal setting

Incorrect or disproportionate goals

Often people, setting a goal, only express a desire: for example, “I want to learn French”, “I want to be happy in my personal life”, “I want to get more money”. Desire and dreams are good, but they have nothing to do with real goals. The goal is a clear vision of the result. Do you want to know French?

Set a time frame for you to get the knowledge you need, ways to achieve it, choose courses, and get started. The same rules apply to other human desires.

Some goals are set frankly inflated. For example, a person receives a salary below the average living wage, but his “goal” is to travel around Africa on a private jet. It is obvious that it will not be possible to achieve it if nothing is changed, if you do not develop a chain of consistent goals that will first lead him to an increase in income, which will allow him to purchase an airplane and organize trips to precisely those parts of the planet that are dreaming.

No fixation in time

If a person sets a goal that he intends to achieve “someday”, he will never achieve it. Any task should be structured not only in content, but also in time. The absence of a clearly defined period leads to relaxation, prevents you from fighting your own laziness, attacks of which sometimes happen even to the most hardworking people.

The presence of deadlines, including for each intermediate goal in the chain, helps to maintain a constant intensity of the achievement process, which keeps it in good shape.

No plan

If there is no clear plan according to which you intend to go towards your goal, you will certainly “go astray”, at some stage you will go away from the goal, go in a detour, or never set off on this path at all.

You need to have a plan with deadlines, after checking the reality of the implementation of each of its points. Obviously, you cannot earn a million in a month. But for another period – completely.

Calculate for which one, look for ways to optimize your earnings. Find acquaintances, friends, associates who can provide all possible assistance.

Lacks relevance or importance

Goals that absolutely do not change anything in everyday life can hardly be considered full-fledged. They are usually not achieved because the person does not have a strong motivation – there is no reason to get something that will not affect the course of events. Simply learning French or Japanese just because it is fashionable now is not a goal, it does not bring real benefits and returns. But if the goal is to learn Japanese, because it will be possible to get a new interesting job or move to live in the Land of the Rising Sun, then it will be realized while maintaining the level of motivation.

In other words, if the effort justifies the result, then the chances of achievement increase. A striking example of irrelevant aspirations is parental expectations. For the time being, their passionate desire to see the child as a medical student is perceived by the child as his own dream. But admission can put everything in its place, show that the goal was imposed from the outside, and, with a high degree of probability, a person will drop out of school and do something that he needs, and not his parents.

Conflict of priorities

This is the reason that hinders those who set too many goals. Even if each of them is “qualitative”, the quantitative factor can significantly complicate the sequencing and prioritization of actions. A person runs the risk of losing strength in an attempt to have time to do everything planned, and at the same time he will not advance in any of his tasks.

It is important to highlight priority goals and less significant ones, which you can start in your free time or leave them for later.

There is a risk of negative consequences

Some goals remain unfulfilled, because their implementation is associated with a certain discomfort for a person, his personal fears and concerns. In this case, he begins to unconsciously look for a lot of reasons to postpone the execution.

For example, you learn Japanese in order to move to live in this country in a year. But in your heart you are afraid of moving, of the unknown, of the difficulties of emigration, you resist this. This goal will not be reached.

Only careful work with your own fears, working out the possible consequences helps to overcome your own insecurities.

How to overcome laziness?

Laziness is a very common reason that disrupts the achievement of our goals in life. It seems that everything is planned and thought out, there are deadlines and the “rules of the game” are defined, there is a strategy, but it’s too lazy to start moving towards the goal. How to be in this case? Naturally, to declare war on their own laziness. As a “weapon”, experts recommend adopting a few rules and practicing them daily.

  • Unleash laziness. If you are too lazy to work and move towards the goal, deprive yourself of all actions, do absolutely nothing. Sit, stand in a state of complete rest, like an idol. It usually takes 15 minutes for it to get pretty boring. As soon as this realization comes, boldly get down to business.
  • “Five minutes”. The five-minute rule is widely known today. If it is difficult to start doing something important to achieve the goal, agree with yourself that you will forcefully do it for only 5 minutes. The condition is to concentrate as much as possible on this matter, do not be distracted. In most cases, the effect will be unexpected – what you planned to devote only 5 minutes to will captivate and “drag out”.
  • Divide big by small. Divide all big things and large-scale goals into smaller ones, and small ones into tiny tasks, tiny steps. This will help to move according to the plan not only strictly, but also quite consciously.
  • Eliminate routine. Laziness like an avalanche falls on those who are forced to perform monotonous tasks and tasks according to the same established order. Try to diversify every day. Even if you’re doing the same thing, innovate your routine – add some music to clean up, change the theme of your computer desktop at work, treat yourself to small “gifts” after completing a particular task.
  • Make good use of the morning. Morning time is the most productive. And if you are an “owl” according to the chronotype, then “morning” for you comes according to your biological clock at lunchtime and after dinner, so the largest number of goals and tasks should be set for these periods.
  • Don’t delay. If you have a daily to-do list, none of it should be put off until later. When it doesn’t work out, reconsider the goals, cut off the unimportant and insignificant. Something urgent and unplanned may arise already in the evening – it would be wiser to do it all the same the next day, having previously included it in the plan in the evening. Unfulfilled tasks run the risk of becoming a “lump”, which one day will roll and lead not only to a severe attack of laziness and apathy, but also to a decrease in one’s self-esteem, a sense of guilt.
  • Down with bad habits and overeating. Modern scientists have managed to find a clear relationship with the frequency and strength of bouts of laziness and a person’s lifestyle. Those who often use illegal substances, alcohol, smoke, like to eat “from the belly” for the coming sleep, suffer from laziness to a greater extent than those who replace bad habits with useful ones – walking, feasible physical activity.
  • Keep motivated. Start each day with memories of your cherished goal. This will help maintain interest in it – and the likelihood of successful achievement will increase significantly.

fixed assets

To achieve goals, it is important to be consistent and patient. What tools to use in this case is a personal matter for everyone. These can be trainings for personal growth, independent work on oneself, an appeal to a specialist psychologist.


At the beginning of the journey, she is usually all right, but everyone knows how difficult it is to maintain proper motivation throughout the journey to the goal. At that time, it is obvious to everyone that it is motivation that is the driving force, and it is important to make sure that it is. How to achieve this in practice?

Do only what you like. If the target requires you to perform actions that are unpleasant, the probability of success will be almost zero. If you don’t love a business, try to get to know it better, love it – it is love in this case that will support motivation right up to the very embodiment of the plan. Find convenient and pleasant ways to achieve your goal that do not involve any violence against yourself.

Know how focus on the result. And be sure to start each difficult stage with a small victory, that is, do what you do best in the first place. This will help “on the wave” of positive to go further.

Organize work and processes so that there is time for both work and rest. Rested people find it easier to maintain motivation than those who are mentally and physically exhausted and exhausted.


Control will help prevent bouts of laziness and decreased motivation. Ask yourself more often how strong your desire to reach your cherished goal is. For control, keep a diary for yourself, in which you can enter the goal, the plan you have drawn up, a description of the methods and deadlines for achieving it. Every day, mark in it how much you have progressed towards what you want, what you have already done.

Nothing is more satisfying than knowing that you are on the right path and that you can overcome everything.


Understanding that the people around you are the most valuable thing in the world will increase your chances of success. People, if you know how to win them over, will offer assistance in the implementation of certain stages. Expand your social circle – you never know in advance in what situations and unexpected places you will meet a person who can easily change your life.

There is no shame in asking for help. Accept it with gratitude, do not try to do everything alone.

Cooperation is also useful in terms of control, because your associates and allies will also control you and will certainly point out if they notice signs of laziness or weakening of motivation.


Keep faith for the best. On the way to the goal, most likely, there will be both successful moments and victories, as well as defeats, failures, when it will seem that everything was in vain. It can even lead to goal failure and depression. Maintaining optimism is also work.

Try to treat everything with humor, even negative events. It is better to perceive the latter as a whole not as a disaster, but as a lesson: life simply teaches you, corrects mistakes, indicates what needs to be corrected. In the end, all these lessons will be useful for achieving goals.

Smile more often, practice the “rule of ten smiles”, which must be given to complete strangers in one day. It can be random fellow travelers in transport, a seller in a store, a neighbor, passers-by, someone else.


Continuously engage in self-development, even if the goal is not directly educational. Use the methods and techniques that are most convenient for you – meditation, affirmations, inner words of encouragement, sayings in front of a mirror, NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) techniques, certain “code” phraseswhich you will pronounce every time as soon as a feeling of your own powerlessness appears, or you are suddenly overcome by melancholy and laziness.

There are a large number of methods and books in which they are described. There are many trainings and seminars, including on the Internet.


Proactivity is a special idea of ​​the human psyche, which implies that everyone has the right and freedom to choose how to react to this or that external stimulus.

It is believed that proactive people achieve their goals more often and more easily. To be proactive means to understand your values, to act in accordance with your life principles.

How it works is best explained by the history of the term itself. It was first proposed and described by Viktor Frankl while in a Nazi concentration camp. There he wrote a book that turned the idea of ​​the human psyche upside down. Being in extremely unbearable conditions, Victor managed to realize himself and understand that between those who act on us from the outside, and our reaction, there is freedom of choice. You yourself have the right to decide whether to be offended by a boor or smile at him in response, take into account external obstacles or go to the goal, despite the obstacles.


Be persistent. Everything will be in the process – fears, fears, doubts about the expediency and possibility of what is desired, perhaps even ridicule from others. Be prepared for this.

Step-by-step achievement system

Methods are different, but they are all strictly based on a certain order of actions.

  • Correctly set your desires, formulate a goal. The desire to achieve it must be strong.
  • Check whether the goal is reasonable, whether it is achievable in principle. There are very few unattainable goals, so keep the faith in yourself that you will certainly have the strength to fulfill your plan.
  • Write down your goal on paper. It is important. Experts believe that putting everything on paper, in a notebook, diary, we structure the task and “program” our subconscious to strive for what we want.
  • Determine the starting point − conditions and objective circumstances and the state in which you are now. Find within yourself a few reasoned answers to the question of why it is so important for you to achieve this goal.
  • Divide the goal into preliminary and component stagesoutline for each of them and the entire task your deadlines.
  • Immediately and honestly identify possible obstacles on the waywrite them down, analyze them, then adopt a plan to eliminate these negative factors.
  • Determine what educational, financial tools, books, courses, training or other facilities you will need, enlist the support of people who will help you in certain tasks.
  • Keep Motivated, constantly monitor how you go according to your checklist, whether there are any lags or advances. Both are not the best strategy.

Here are some more useful tips and ways to make achieving goals effective.

  • Create your system. It is not necessary to use someone else’s practices, maps, algorithms and schemes. Each person has an individual psyche and character, and therefore it is best, having familiarized yourself with common methods, to choose the best from them and create your own system. In any case, it will be optimal for you, more suitable.
  • Use the visualization technique. Imagine what you want more often, try to feel now what you will feel when the goal has already been achieved. Fix feelings in your memory – during periods of failures and experiences, evoke these memories in order to support your will and motivation in a difficult period. Some people use a “wish wall” for visualization, placing images of what they want in a prominent place where they will often catch the eye.
  • Create a morning schedule. Be very careful about the schedule in the most productive period. To within half an hour or a quarter of an hour, plan everything that you will do in the morning.

The time from 9 am to 11 am is optimal for intellectual work, learning new things, analytics, and working with numbers. More time-consuming tasks should be carried out during this period of time. For physical activities, the best time is after lunch.

Brian Tracy technique

An American writer and world-famous business coach studied the stories of those who could become a millionaire from scratch, and came to a simple conclusion – most people do not achieve their goals, because they are sure that success is meant for the best people, not for themselves. The scheme he proposed involves the constant implementation of several steps and actions that will lead to the success of anyone. If you briefly outline the Tracy methodology, you get a rough list of recommendations.

  • Dream big set desired goals, several goals at once. Don’t limit yourself to lack of self-esteem.
  • Be clear about the goalplan, every day take a small step towards what you want.
  • Talk about purposeit will become a part of life.
  • Eliminate any excuses: self-pity, criticism of others and accusations. The entire responsibility for your life lies entirely with you.
  • Circumstances around us change only when we ourselves change. Develop your best traits and qualities.
  • Apply the Rule of Concentration – if you started to do something, devote yourself completely to this task only.
  • “Pay Yourself”every month setting aside at least a tenth of their income in savings to achieve the goal.