Reddit users were asked when they were so honest that it caused problems or even offended others. And here is what they answered.
The painful truth about orgasm
During my second relationship, I decided to be honest and open about when I had and didn’t have an orgasm. This guy took it very hard and as a personal failure. But he also thought he was great in bed and refused to listen when I gave advice about what I liked. After all, that was one of the many reasons why I broke up with him.
Conversation with a colleague
A colleague complained to me that men who do not want to date a single mother are freaks and wanted me to agree with her.
I said I didn’t agree, everyone has the right to have certain dating preferences. I added that I myself do not date men with children, because this is my preference, to which I also have every right. She said it was discrimination. I said it’s personal preference. She became even more defensive and asked what if I met the perfect man and he had a child. I said that this proposal was controversial because my “ideal” man would not have a child. Pause. She didn’t like it, I wouldn’t agree with her, so she changed the subject.
Finally, she told the other women in the office that that’s what i saidthat men should not date single mothers. My boss took me aside and asked if it was true. I explained the situation and he told me that my colleague said she was going to file a complaint against me with HR.
After 6 or 7 months she was fired from our office for other reasons.
Problems? What problems?
You’re laughing? I tell people all the time that they’re jerks and that always creates problems. People don’t like it when you point out the obvious.
The truth about feelings for others
I told my ex about my feelings for the other guy and how sad I was about the state of our relationship. We hardly spoke and our relationship seemed very superficial, despite the fact that we had been dating for a year.
I said that I wanted us to work on our communication. Needless to say, he was hurt, he asked me not to be [легкомысленной] and said that I would never be happy. We broke up two days after that. I should have told him that I was unhappy with our relationship, and not mention the other person … I think that in a sense I dumped too much on him.
The truth about the reasons for the breakup
When I ended my last relationship, my ex asked me to list the reasons why I left. Even though he was very rude to me and others, I still regret telling the truth.
I don’t think it really helped anything other than upset him a bit, but it could have been done with a lot less harsh words. So now, instead of using that list to get better, he’s wallowing in regret and self-pity, even a year later.